Here’s what our experience has been:
We have found so many outdated relationship myths that may have worked for our grandparents generation, but just don’t hold up to today’s standards. Let’s look at these misconceptions so that you’re certain you won’t sabotage your own love story.
1 True or False: "The more passionate the love, the more heated the fights!”
Actually... In an Evolved relationship, passionate love doesn’t have to equal heated fights. Love isn't about arguing, and deep bonds are created by working out unique solutions together leading to a place better than either of you started from.
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2 True or False: “Love is blind and the honeymoon eventually ends. Mature couples accept that in real life the intense desire we feel in the beginning changes from lust to love over time.”
Actually... There’s a secret every Evolved Couple experiences: things keep getting better after the honeymoon is over! Their attraction grows because they're constantly growing themselves. As they evolve, they become more appreciated by everyone they meet.
In an Evolved relationship, the intense attraction of the beginning doesn't fade; it deepens. The more you work on yourselves, the more attractive you become to each other and the world.
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3 True or False: “As that love grows and replaces the intensity of desire, our expectation of sexual appetite and frequency need to evolve.”
Actually... Evolved couples nurture their sexual connection, not by changing desires, but by growing their compatibility and commitment, ensuring a flame that withstands the test of time.
Sexual compatibility and connection increase in evolved relationships. Why? Because we love the experience of our partner, we want it to last as long as possible, and part of that is looking after our health and keeping in shape.
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4 True or False: “Love lasts longer and works better for couples who learn how to compromise.”
Actually... Compromise breeds resentment which grows over time. Evolved partners explore options beyond their individual perspectives until they discover solutions that work better for both, fostering harmony and understanding. It's a win-win approach to love and conflict.
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5 True or False: “Knowing your partner's Love Language is valuable so you know the proper way to show them love.”
Actually... While knowing your partner's Love Language is valuable, it's not about pretending to be someone you're not. It's about recognizing when they are expressing love in their unique way to you. Loving in a language that’s not your own will falter when life gets big, but if we’re more aware of their love signals we can appreciate when they’re loving us.
6 True or False: “The best way to a man's heart is through compliments and sex.”
Actually... Men can actually become quite embarrassed when complimented.  They prefer a quieter appreciation. As long as their woman is happy and not negative, men are content. What keeps a man’s fire burning isn't flattery; it's genuine admiration and positive focus - feeding their souls, not their egos. What keeps his sexual connection high is her trust, appreciation and belief that his best is more than enough for her.
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7 True or False: “The love of a woman for her man will never stop growing as long as he remembers that she's his #1 priority.”
Actually... Evolved men don't just blindly prioritize their woman; they listen, acknowledge her feelings, and make decisions that honor both their truths. It's like a partnership built on understanding, not simply catering to whims.
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8 True or False: “The love of a woman for her man will never stop growing as long as he remembers that she's his #1 priority.”
Actually... A man who gives a woman everything she asks for will eventually notice that she loses attraction and finds other men more desirable. Women want to know that their man adores them, but that he is affected, not directed, by his partner.
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9 True or False: “A wise man knows that it's better to find a way to apologize, agree and get along than push back when his woman is fiery.”
Actually... A man who constantly gives in to his partner rather than risking conflict will eventually fill her with contempt. She needs to know that the man can keep her safe - especially from her dysregulated emotional responses.
Simply giving in leads to contempt. An Evolved man navigates conflicts respectfully without becoming a doormat.  He strikes a balance between standing his ground and showing he can keep her safe during her fiery moments. It's about hearing her while honoring his truth, making her feel safe, and preserving the dignity of both. Healthy disagreements, when handled with care, strengthen relationships, proving a man's ability to keep his partner emotionally secure.
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10 True or False: “To avoid resentment, individual wants and needs must be set aside for the understanding that now the relationship is the priority.”
Actually... Evolved relationships aren't about sacrificing things you love for the sake of the partnership. They're about finding joy together and individually, exploring new horizons, and nurturing each other's passions. It's a symphony of shared and personal dreams.
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You’ve Completed the Conscious Relationship Assessment where we're challenging the outdated relationship myths keeping you from achieving a remarkable, long-lasting love. Are you open to rethink your beliefs with a sprinkle of humor, a dash of enlightenment, and a whole lot of wisdom?
Let us help you make yours a love worthy of a lifetime!
Much love - Jenn & G ❤️
