The Difference in How High Value Women and Men Know a Soul Mate

Most women are looking for a man who doesn’t exist. 

Most men are looking for something they don’t BELIEVE exists. 

What men want is freedom - actually, an even better word for what men want is “space”. 

Most women believe that their are two kinds of men: The common kind of man who never wants to have to make a choice or be committed, and the rare “good” man who is different from the rest and WANTS a relationship where he falls in love with one woman and his heart is hers for the rest of his life. 

There ARE two kinds of men, but that’s not how they’re divided:

1. ONE kind of man is afraid of life and unsure of his ability to be loved or succeed. 

While he CRAVES space and freedom, he’s afraid to be alone and so he compromises or settles for a woman willing to settle for a man who has doubts about his lovability and whether he will truly succeed. 

The average man will compromise his core need to have space for a woman willing to settle for a man who has yet to develop the confidence to create space and freedom on his own. 

(And he settles for a woman who hasn’t discovered how to create a space of safety and love on her own). 

2. The other kind of man knows he is loveable, has experienced that he is desirable and has built success through his commitment to purpose. 

This is the High Value Man that women with self worth are looking for - but this kind of man won’t compromise his need for space for any woman. 

But... what the High Value Man finds utterly irresistible is the woman who has discovered how to feel safe and loved without needing a man to feel those. 

Most women have never experienced this kind of man, so they suspect he doesn’t exist. Most men have never experienced this kind of woman so they suspect what they crave isn’t going to come from a relationship. 

The reality is that what we each most desire first needs to be found on our own, but the full potential of what we desire is found in relationships because that’s the only place the power of synergy can be created. 

The courtship pattern is almost always the same - two people meet, there’s an attraction, that attraction builds, she feels a desire to be more open, connected and intimate and then the pressure begin for him to choose her exclusively and give up his space and freedom before they have genuinely gotten to know who the other person is at their core under pressure. 

A High Value Man will never walk away from his space or freedom. 

But... a High Value Man WILL offer commitment and exclusivity to a woman he has come to trust and experienced that her ability to feel safe and loved isn’t dependent on him or any other man. 

A woman who feels safe and loved separate from a relationship is what allows a man space to feel free inside of an exclusive committed relationship. 

“Love at first sight” can’t happen for this type of couple. They both have a maturity and the experience to know that it takes time to look past “potential” and know the core character of who they’re getting to know. 

The woman who can consistently show up in The First 90 Days with the ability to allow a man space and freedom so he has time to know what he really feels will create a bond and attraction so deep that his interest in other women will fall away. 

The man who can consistently show up in The First 90 Days with the ability to keep his word without ever compromising his truth will create a space so safe that even the most confident woman will open and desire to lean into his energy rather than relying entirely on her own. 

It’s the ability of both to show up in that First 90 Days with the evidence in every nuance of their energy that they’re not pushing to make something happen or fit. 

I invite you to join us this month as we dive into why the different approaches of a High Value Men & Women create a complimentary synergy that ensures we choose a partner who doesn’t just make our heart race, but someone we will grow more deeply connected to every day for the rest of our lives.