Why He Wants Exclusivity

dating May 17, 2019

I’m not saying all women are “too much,” but mine definitely is.

It’s 2:00 AM and I’m wide awake because I can barely even get myself to sleep next to this woman - some nights just being in the room with her feels like an overload!

I think my heart just doesn’t want to take an 8 hour break, so it keeps me wide awake thinking about who she chooses to be and how perfectly she loves me. I try to soothe the feeling and drift off by pulling her in close and spooning, but it never feels like I can get my heart close enough.

If I could wrap us together the way you pair socks before you put them in the drawer that might be enough, but even wrapping my arm around her waist, curling my forearm between her breasts, resting my fingers against her neck and weaving our thighs together can’t get my heart as close as it wants to be.
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Was Sex A "Dirty" Word In Your Family?

sex Apr 20, 2019

My entire life, I have, along with millions of other girls, been told that sex is a degrading and shameful act. When I was 5 years old and beginning to discover the wonders of my body, my mother, completely horrified, told me that if I masturbated, my vagina would fall off.

The most striking view I was indoctrinated with was that sex is something women “have,” but that they shouldn’t “give it away” too soon -– as though there’s only so much sex in any one woman, and sex is something she does for a man that necessarily requires losing something of herself, and so she should be really careful who she “gives” it to.

The prevailing societal brainwashing dictates that sexuality and sex "reduce" women, whereas men are merely innocent actors on the receiving end. By extension, our virginity or abstinence has a bearing on who we are as people -- as good people or bad people, as nice women or bad women.

Women's ability to be moral actors...

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Foreplay For A Woman - What Every Man Needs To Know!

sex Apr 20, 2019

Foreplay to a woman is NOT groping, pleading, a little petting, 30 seconds of oral and a few minutes of heavy breathing before switching positions to prove you're throwing in some variety.

Nor is it a formula of helping with the dishes in exchange for sex 15 minutes later.

Foreplay for a woman is about the 'being' of a man and begins the moment the previous act of sex ends.

It's curling around her and holding her rather than rolling over and going to sleep.

It's getting her a glass of water, a towel, bowl of fruit or cup of tea.

It's the habit of making her coffee in the morning, joining her in the shower or letting her sleep in while you make the kids breakfasts and pack the lunches.

It's the kiss at the door that lingers and the grab he always sneaks in that says he finds her irresistible and can't wait to get back.

It's the text he sends from work to say he was reminded of her when he passed the little Vietnamese place she loves so much.

It's the house cleaner he...

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What Evolved Women Really Want

sex Apr 20, 2019

Foreplay to a woman is NOT groping, pleading, a little petting, 30 seconds of oral and a few minutes of heavy breathing before switching positions to prove you're throwing in some variety.

Nor is it a formula of helping with the dishes in exchange for sex 15 minutes later.

Foreplay for a woman is about the 'being' of a man and begins the moment the previous act of sex ends.

It's curling around her and holding her rather than rolling over and going to sleep.

It's getting her a glass of water, a towel, bowl of fruit or cup of tea.

It's the habit of making her coffee in the morning, joining her in the shower or letting her sleep in while you make the kids breakfasts and pack the lunches.

It's the kiss at the door that lingers and the grab he always sneaks in that says he finds her irresistible and can't wait to get back.

It's the text he sends from work to say he was reminded of her when he passed the little Vietnamese place she loves so much.

It's the house cleaner he surprises...

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Here's Why That Happened: The Evolution of Sex

sex Apr 20, 2019

Women were originally the most treasured and respected members of Matriarchal societies where their ability to create life and intuit the rhythms of nature were of the highest value.

Women are empathically and sensually more powerful whereas men are pragmatically and physically more powerful. Combined the strengths of each create tremendous synergy and allowed us to take control of our environment. Next we extended this to conquer the world.

Once we discovered that it was easier to take the resources of others rather than hunt and gather our own, masculine energy became the dominating force and the sensuality and intuitive wisdom of women became a threat.  

The Industrial Revolution began to shift things again and the Feminist movement pushed women back to a place at the table and women have made good with many of the advantages they have over their mother's generation.

The problem is not the fact that women have become sexually liberated promiscuous, ball busting economic...

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Trading Love For Sex?

sex Apr 20, 2019

There is a trade that goes on in many relationships where men do romantic favors for their partner in exchange for her doing sexual favors for him - at least that's how they refer to those acts. But is it actually romance and sex, or is it really just a performance designed for two codependent individuals who have learned to exchange favors?

Doesn't a woman really want a man to show up with flowers because he saw them, thought of her and understood that she would appreciate them. Or if he was in the mall and saw a pair of earrings he purchased them because he understands her style, what looks great on her and wanted to put a smile on her face?

Doesn't a man want a woman who doesn't simply tolerate his sexual interests, but is so drawn to him that she feels perpetually drawn to his masculinity in a way that connects her to him sexually?  Or sends him sexy texts of thoughts and fantasies she has of him because she can't get the last time out of her mind until the next time?

The...

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But Can You Handle How Sexy You Are?

sex Apr 20, 2019

Do you even KNOW what makes you so damn irresistible????

I don't think you do.

I don't think you realize how much of your power you've shut down in response to men who were afraid that if you understood the power your feminine essence you would deny it from them.

It doesn't come from your figure, your youthfulness or even your sexuality. All of those are affected by this power you have - the one you've dialed down to just about zero, because your power frightens you.

Someone insulted you, shamed you, guilted you, yelled at you or literally attached you at some point in your life because they feared the real power you had. It's not just men who do this, other women, even some mothers do this to their daughters because they're afraid of having their light eclipsed by yours.  

Yesterday I watched three different women open this part of them that they'd shut down for, well... decades. I saw the transformation occur right in front of my eyes.

Their Heartspace opened, they owned...

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Are You A Highly Sexual Woman? Many Empaths Are

sex Apr 20, 2019

One of the most powerful forms of feminine energy is a woman's capacity to be unlimited and unending in her sexual desire and expression. Fear of this power has caused us to label the woman who chooses to open and experience these qualities as a Whore.

Those who feel powerless in the presence of the power of this energy have chosen to view it as dangerous, evil and disgusting. The label of Whore therefor has come to reflect a portion of feminine energy we should control, reject and even abandon.

In the most extreme cultures ruled by unconscious masculine fear we see the forced repression of any kind of display of sexuality, down to complete covering of the feminine form and laws that prevent a woman from going out without a make chaperone. Female circumcision is prevalent too in these cultures in an attempt to forcibly remove the experience of pleasure from the act of self-pleasure or sexuality.

Sexuality is a uniquely feminine power. Even the most conscious man can't come close...

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Nothing Makes A Woman Turned On For A Man Like This

sex Apr 20, 2019

Life has been challenging, so has my partners. Up until the past 2 months, it's felt like a non stop cycle of one of us dealing with a big life challenge and the other one having the space to offer support and then we swap. Not this time. We've both been slammed from all sides and it's taxed both of us.

Life has been the biggest it's ever been since we met... AND I've never felt more understood, more beautiful, valued, appreciated, connected or desired in our relationship.

I've needed to cry A LOT. I find a tremendous release through my tears. My partner took me in his arms one night when I was feeling absolutely over the top emotional and said, "If what you need to do is cry every single night to release, then that's what we'll do. I don't get tired, annoyed or frustrated by your tears." .....WOW. Yes, ladies, he said that - and more importantly he meant it.

We haven't had as much space as usual to connect, but we've still made the time to enjoy intimate conversations, work...

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Great Sex! It's Not Just For New Lovers

sex Apr 19, 2019

Someone asked me the other day, "With conscious couples, does the spark fade after a period of time? Does every relationship eventually lose its passion?"  

Here's my experience in a conscious relationship:

My love, connection and desire for Graham has not faded, decreased or slowed down. I want and desire him a little more everyday. I still check him out, get butterflies when I see him after we've been apart, and I want him every time he flashes me a smile and I get a glimpse of his dimples.

Early on in our relationship a friend of mine stated, "Oh! You're in that *Honeymoon* phase, where you still need to lock the door so the kids don't walk in."

I remember having this intuitive sense that she was so SO wrong about what we were creating, that what we had was no oxytocin delusion - that it would just go on and on.

Well, you know what?  We still need to lock the door, some days more than once in a day, and I still love and cherish every moment of our intimate connection....

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