What Influences A Man?

When it comes to men, how often have you tried to be supportive, given advice, been long-suffering to find the debt is never repaid?

Men do not change because they have new or better information, nor are they fundamentally influenced by philosophical arguments or well articulated opinion. Sharing posts, engaging in long conversations, going with them to courses or counseling are not the mechanisms that change them.

Men change only when the pain of remaining the same exceeds their massive reluctance of publicly failing looking or foolish attempting the new or unknown.

The thing men value most is a source of high quality feminine energy. The internal source of this is deep and elusive to men until they have transitioned through multiple traumatic life experiences revealing his purpose.

Until a man accepts, embraces and courageously lives his life with purpose and intention he will seek to fill what aches in his soul through relationships - relationships with women, with money, with nature, or with substances.

The power to enlighten a man comes through pressure and pain - something our ancestors knew and used in boys as young as 13 when they were expected to participate in initiation rights of manhood. Without these experiences we have been left with a generation of man-boys who are full of information, some who are even spiritual, but lack the ability to be at their most magnificent under pressure.

The only pressure with the power to change a man that remains is the standards of conscious women who refuse to share the gift of their feminine presence and energy with a man who fails to demonstrate the commitment to purpose and magnificence under pressure.

So if you want to help a man, don't. The pressure of your refusal to take on his burden or ease the urgency of his search for an answer is what he needs.

The power to influence men comes from your willingness to stand back and let them complain to a void. The reason this feels cruel is because the process for reaching consciousness for the feminine is a collaborative one, but for men it is a solitary journey they must reach alone.

Men change when the pressure of living without what they've lost exceeds the cost of the change they need to make to attract it. This is why solid boundaries and ending relationships have the greatest impact on men and the power women hold to influence men through high standards. The resistance to this comes from the fact that their is pain in her loss through applying the pressure.

You can't lift the weight for them and expect them to grow. You can't take the test for them and expect them to retain the knowledge. You can't give them the answers and expect them to internalize truth that requires experience. And you can't solve the problem for them and expect them to own the truth that is revealed.

The most powerful way to influence a man is to work on developing the most magnificent version of yourself and being the kind of woman that only a truly magnificent man who is living with courageous purpose can claim the right to connect with.

It's women who refuse to settle and who choose to live with exceptional standards that inspire men to evolve. You don't need to educate or inform men to get them to change, you simply need to focus on yourself and allow men the pressure to grow.