I was told that I expressed too much, cried too much, and felt too deeply. I was made to feel I wasn't together enough, tough enough or strong enough to be loved and fully embraced by the kind of man I deeply desired.
I got to the point where I nearly gave up... then I met a conscious man who made me feel like those were the parts of me he loved most of all.
There had been cruel men who attacked and insulted these parts of me and careless men men who put me down. There were even a few sensitive men who listened, but didn't know how to be centered enough for what I needed.
But I knew I wanted - I NEEDED - more...
I thought it was impossible... until I met a conscious man.
If you're like the sensitive empathic women I mentor, you long for a masculine man with the capacity to embrace and hold space for your feminine soul. You have so much that you want to share, but the men you've met have made you feel flawed for being you or had so far to go to reach their potential they needed a mother more than a lover.
Conscious men with the ability to hold space for you do exist.
A man exists that is the perfect compliment to you. There is a synergy and chemistry better than the fantasy and I know it's there for you because I've seen it happen now over and over.
I have now supported women who have never married, women who have left narcissists, women who have been left alone with children by men who were emotional children themselves and young women just beginning their search all learn to open their hearts in the way that draws in the energy of a conscious man.
My question to you, is…
I'm going to share the secret behind all my clients who have attracted ‘the one.'
It starts with completely accepting and fully embracing every part of ourselves.
The first step for me was to find the courage to start over. In 2009 after 17 years of marriage I was on my own with two teenagers and a newborn.
I made the commitment to find women who could show me the way to create the kind of life and love I desired. Four years later I put myself out into the dating world and two days later I met my conscious man.
I got a lot of response to the dating profile I put up, but I instantly knew one man was different from all the rest.
It's not a matter of being able to attract men's attention. The critical piece is respecting and loving yourself so deeply that only a magnificent man meets your standard.
Conscious love is possible, but we need support to first fully love and accept ourselves.
We attract the love we believe we deserve. We attract a better kind of love when we live in a better kind of love.
This is why I have created Women's Circles. Love isn't created in a vacuum, it grows in the presence of people who truly see us, reflect the beauty of all that we are and validate how valuable and special we are.
It begins by surrounding ourselves with people who love us and whose lives are examples we want for ourselves.
I want you to hear not only from me, but from a conscious man what it takes to become irresistible to a man who has the strength to embrace every part of you, the courage to express himself, and the commitment to claim you exclusively.
Every month I'm contacted by hundreds of women asking what it took to attract a conscious man and if there are more like him out there.
After mentoring hundreds of women through the process of self-love, seeing them begin to attract a different caliber of relationships, fall in love, celebrate their proposals and now more and more receive invitations to their weddings I can promise you this is possible for you too!
When my relationship ended I felt like this might never happen. I had so many messages of being 'too much' and 'not enough' stuck in my head. With three kids and mounting debt I worried that men would only see me as a burden and that I would never find love.
I realized I needed to build a new foundation of confidence and self-acceptance before I would have the energy to love. I didn't want a man who would fix or save me, I wanted to be someone who was exquisitely worthy of love.
It began by choosing the people I would surround myself with, people who valued me, embraced my quirky, complicated and emotional qualities and proved those parts were worthy of love.
Do you want a remarkable circle of women you trust to love and support you this way?
It all changed for me the day I realized:
It's not that men who are ready for a conscious partner are rare…
It's that we don't see them and they can't see us until we do more than believe we deserve it, we must be a loving soulmate to ourselves living a life with the kind of energy that inspires him to not only meet, but exceed the expectations already evidenced in our life.
For me it began with setting aside time every day for self-love. I went for dinner, bought myself flowers, took myself to the movies. I created a process of connecting with and loving my body and learned how to see myself through a lens of beauty instead of criticism.
It's not an accident that the man I attracted goes out of his way to spoil me with all of things and much more. He met a woman whose standards impressed him and his natural desire to be his woman's hero took over to give me everything I already had plus more.
This is what's critical to understand about men...
You're not going to attract a man who gives you the fantasy you've always dreamed of, you'll attract a man who is attracted to the energy you're living when the two of you meet. If you're not encountering conscious men, it's because the standard you've set for yourself doesn't inspire them to recognize you as the kind of woman they're looking for.
The good news is, we have total control over who we attract by the way we love ourselves
Are you ready to love yourself fiercely?
There is a process, inside the safety of a circle of love where you're fully seen, deeply acknowledged and authentically loved, where you will discover the essence in you that is the aphrodisiac to conscious men.
I've worked with enough women to know you might be thinking…
I understand. If this was true about anyone, it would have been me. Who would want to partner with a hyper emotional, single mom with teenagers and a toddler, an entangled divorce, financially complicated highly sensitive woman?
You know who I ended up meeting? A man who was ideally designed to support me in every single one of these areas!
The same is going to be true for you. The man out there right now, the one literally waiting for the woman who he is uniquely designed to be a magnificent partner for, is there waiting for you begin living with the belief that you deserve him.
It's not an accident that it was only 2 days after I put this intention out into the universe and committed to attracting a partner who met 100% of the standards I'd set (he exceeded them).
I see this over and over with the women I've mentored in the past 4 years.
When someone holds the space for us, believes in us before or when we can't and creates a safe space for us to believe, that's when we're able to claim the truth for our self.
It's not your fault you haven't created this yet, we all need someone to reflect the incredible value in us before we believe.
Something special happens once we're in a protective circle of total love and acceptance. We begin to focus on our beauty instead of flaws. Over time we realize we don't have flaws, just quirks and unique character that make us unique to love.
Graham and I had both resigned ourself to the idea that maybe no one would love some as unique and complicated as we were. When we met we discovered someone better than either of us had imagined.
When you’re part of a conscious relationship, there is no judgement. You don't 'tolerate' each other, you hold space for each other. You don't take turns compromising, you both actively collaborate to create a mutual win. Even when it gets tough you don't argue, you look for the best in each other and take time to understand what you each need.
Don't you want a relationship where you're loved most for just being you?
The most freeing thing about my relationship today is I don't 'try'. I'm deeply appreciated for doing the things that come naturally.
The same is true for Graham, the flowers he's always getting me, the thoughtful moments and physical and emotional closeness are naturally what he wants to give.
For 4 years we've been together almost constantly and rather than feeling exhausted by each other, we constantly find more to love.
Imagine a relationship where you're more excited to see each other every day, even after years of being together. A relationship where every night he wraps himself around you and every morning you wake up to a soft, loving touch.
The sex that's possible with this kind of bond can't easily be put into words, but every woman I've spoken to who's connected with a conscious partner agrees that the total trust and openness in the safe space a confident man like this exudes makes romance novels feel tame in comparison.
Don't you crave the safety of a man where you can experience that?
When you flip this switch, they can't stay away.
It doesn't matter if you're short, tall, voluptuous or thin, it's the confident energy of a woman who loves herself than men who aren't wounded adore. It's when we feel insecure or unworthy that we attract men who are projects, narcissists or looking for a mommy occurs.
Spending countless hours online, on bad dates, and kissing frogs is unnecessary when you're clear about your standards for your man. That's why I was able to pick Graham out of so many without the drama of bad dates.
Most women think it's got to be a numbers game to find a good man. It's not. Once you begin putting out a focused energy the right man zeros in and the rest won't matter.
Are you tired of games, players and men who don't plan or follow through?
I hear about this from virtually every woman I speak to, women who waste months on a man who disappears, runs away or who makes commitments he doesn't keep. The way I set women up, they skip all of the drama and go straight to the real deal!
Settling for someone who is simply better than being alone has only one outcome: codependency. We settle for them and they settle for us, and there are no passionate relationships that spring from a foundation of compromising our standards and a vibe of toleration.
I know women that have spent years on and off of dating sites, worked with dating coaches and match makers and still haven't found what they're looking for.
When we have the right kind of energy it takes just days or weeks before the right kind of men start resonating with our vibe.
Do you want to attract magnificent men?
I'm making available the exact process I use with my one-on-one clients to a small group of women where Graham and I will personally support you through the steps of the process.
At this point I am booked out months in advance for personal work, so I have created a 6 week course that brings a woman to the place where she becomes irresistible to a conscious man. It's time to prepare your heart for the partnership you've longed for. It's totally possible, and it's much MUCH closer than you might think.
I want you to believe as much as I believe that you deserve magnificent love….
“Is this the day you'll make the choice to own the love you deserve?”
6 weeks from now you could have the man you're looking for fully visualized. It took just two days for Graham to appear an despite complicated lives with seven children between us, in less than 6 weeks from meeting we'd become an item and moved in.
6 weeks to open your heart to love, switch on the belief in yourself that conscious men crave in their partner, all while being surrounded and supported by women committed to seeing and bringing out the magnificence in each other.
Getting on a dating site, having friends set you up, even working with the top matchmakers isn't going to create the spark you're looking for if you're not living with a belief you deserve your soulmate in the quiet lonely moments late at night. Switch that on in a genuine way and your energy will create instant attraction where ever you go.
I’m a little reluctant to share how powerful this attraction can be…
Because since I switched this on, it's never gone away. 4 years later and every time Graham sees me it's like it's for the very first time. He tells me often that I become more and more attractive - and I FEEL it! The more I feel it, the more real it becomes.
All the women I've worked with report the same thing - men who weren't in the same energy vibe before suddenly start approaching them, the barista buys their coffee, men plug their meter, leave them notes and compliment them on how lucky their man must feel.
They're always appropriate and always surprised a woman 'like her' could possibly be single.
"You CAN Have It All! I thought that you couldn't have a great guy AND a passionate relationship. I was dating a decent, but boring guy where everything looked great on paper, but something was missing - PASSION! He didn't think I was funny and there just wasn't any sexual chemistry. He kept telling me he was in love and was even asking me to marry him, but my intuition was telling her something wasn't there. My last relationship was really passionate, but he was controlling, cheated, couldn't keep his commitments or make me feel safe. So I thought that you had to choose between one or the other. Because of the support I got from Jenn, I learned that I could first believe in myself, and once I knew I was the kind of woman who could offer it all I realized it was possible for there to be a man who had it all. Jenn proved to me that it was possible to have all the qualities I wanted in one man - she'd found it, and then I did too! I found a man who is sexy, loves to laugh with me and last month we actually got engaged!"
Mentor ship is the secret to success in any aspect of life. Fumbling around on our own or being surrounded by people no closer to the kind of love we're looking for isn't going to turn the key to the door that love is waiting behind.
One of the big secrets to the work I do is that it's never just me. In addition to the honest perspective Graham shares about men, you will be surrounded by other women who are committed to making sure you see the beauty in you the way the world sees it.
I'm not talking about a spotlight kind of energy where you feel like you're on stage, it's more of a quiet glow, one that makes people with a genuine intent keep an eye on you, find an appropriate moment and look to get to know a little more about you. Even places you frequent will start to feel different as people remember our , know you by name and smile the moment they see you.
Honestly if you're reading this far you know your soul is aching for you to take these steps.
You deserve to experience soul love.
If not now when? In another lifetime? Don't you deserve to experience the joy of another person lighting up every time you walk in the room?
“For every soul there is its compliment. Don't leave your match longing for your heart to show up for him.”
Did you think of that? By not opening your heart and turning your love light on you're denying an exceptional man the pleasure of the woman his heart aches to embrace.
There is a love you were born for and deserve. Only by risking the first steps can you begin the journey to love...
Once you give yourself permission to begin it is a very short space of time until you start attracting genuine love everywhere you go...
And then like so many of my clients you attract a magnificent man, you begin planing the rest of your life together, you're celebrating a proposal, a ring and for some even picking baby names.
It may seem like a dream now, but looking back then, today will feel like a lifetime ago.
The experience of life today is the one that will feel surreal. It will be hard to believe that there was ever a time you wondered if an amazing man would make you the center of his world and love the parts of you that are 'complicated'.
You are very close to the moment where your soulmate looks into your eyes and let's you know that for him, there is no other woman he sees.
So many women have attracted this love...
Carly and a number of others met their ideal guy online. Sarah discovered her highly romantic man at a business conference. Amhika met her man at a cousin's wedding. Belinda met her partner while on a cruise with her girlfriends.
Join us and let's be be sure you get there.
When Graham and I met we didn't think this was going to be the big one, but we had both reached a point where we didn't dread being single. As Graham said, "I never looked at it as 'dating'. To me it was just a process of getting to know interesting people and I happened to meet you!"
I like that way of seeing life, as an experience rather than a destination. That way you get to enjoy the ride!
The key is being on that journey with someone you appreciate, and first on that road is you.
I've seen many cases of women who have done their work, but who don't realize they're stuck in a pattern of old unconscious habits giving off signals that aren't really them and it's pushing men away. I even had this come up after I'd met Graham and he challenged me if that's really what I'd intended.
This one's a bit of a trick because it can usually only be spotted by others, and people who've known us a while don't pick up on it because to them it's just 'us'. All of us have these leftover echoes of the old us stuck inside and they usually come up at the worst times.
When you work with a mentor and support group, these get noticed right away.
Having a group of sisters standing by your side who you know only love you teaches the skill of graciousness and humility before you're in a tense situation with someone you don't want to lose.
This has been a big part of getting Graham and I through all the challenges of life and parenting 7 children without ever going to bed upset with each other. There have been many times we've begun with different points of view or challenged each other, but bitterness and frustration never creep in.
You're Worth Too Much Not To Gift Yourself This Process of Soulmate and Self-Love
I believe you've arrived here for a reason. Now is your time to experience conscious love.
I don't want to see you miss out because you waited. You're worth doing this for, that's why you're here! Treat yourself to what you want and deserve.
Go to the link below and give yourself the gift you truly deserve.
"I Realized I Deserved So Much Better..... I'm embarrassed to admit that when I came to Jenn I was in a relationship with my boss. I pretty much felt trapped because I worried that if we broke up I'd also lose my job. I didn't have the self-worth to believe I deserved better, that I could attract better. Somewhere along the way I'd stopped believing in me. Worst of all, I knew that he was cheating on me, but I didn't feel like I could call him on it without him lashing out at me, lying, denying, blaming me and making me out to be delusional or crazy. What I wanted most was to be CHOSEN by someone. Actually, not just by someone, but by an incredible man who saw me as special. With Jenn's help I was able to begin to let go of all the old and toxic programming that had taken over my mind and heart. We worked on manifestation and just a few weeks later I met my conscious man. This month we've gone ring shopping! :) I'm so glad I did the work with Jenn and allowed myself breath life back into the belief that I matter and that I deserved so much more than I was settling for."
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1) I'm too much
2) I'm not enough
3) I'm not worth the time
This is NOT the truth about women or Feminine energy in general. We all deserved, but few of us had parents who were fully capable of understanding and embracing us leading to us attracting men who felt familiar, but fell short the same way.
This week Graham will join us and explain why the most 'complicated' aspects of the feminine are also a reflection of what makes it so valuable to a conscious masculine man.
It's not possible to trust others if we don't trust ourselves. Conscious people don't bond with people who don't possess the quality of self-trust.
Graham will join us again as both he and I share the path to self-trust and self-love and why this step needs to precede commitment to a partner vs attempting to heal each other.
Both of us attempted long-term relationships through the codependency of helping a partner heal before we independently realized we needed to learn to love, trust and respect ourselves before we would attract the partner we desired.
"I Am TOTALLY Worthy Of Love! My heart was broken far before I ever started dating. My wounds went back to when my father walked out when I was just 5 years old and left me with the feeling that I wasn't worth choosing. Even before I began dating I felt forgotten, worth less, abandoned and that led me to believe that I had to settle for anyone who told me they loved me. My energy attracted all the wrong kinds of men. It was the kind of thing that abusers, cheaters, and narcissists have a radar for and I went from one bad relationship to the next just looking for someone to love me, to choose me, to be enough that they would treat me right and not be doing things behind my back. I became a single mother and decided to focus all my love and energy into the heart of my little girl and give her the love I wished I'd had for myself, but in the process I wasn't giving it to me. I wanted to be able to model the kind of conscious relationship with a man that I wanted for my daughter. It took some work, but it was absolutely worth it. Not only did I attract an incredible man who respects me, treats me like a queen and is a great example for my daughter, my new energy has been noticed by everyone in my life and even resulted in a MAJOR job promotion. I have my daughter, my man and a job I love with a salary and benefits that I didn't even dream would all be possible before working with Jenn."
"More Money, More Magic and More Fabulous Men! I decided to work with Jenn because I identified with her feeling like she was always "Too much" for people her whole life. My parents split when I was little and I really felt like it was because I was so much to handle. I had so much energy in school that hardly any of my teachers knew what to do with me and my experience with men made me feel like the only thing men wanted me for was sex, that they didn't want to listen to what I was feeling or thinking. When I started working with Jenn I was a single mother with two young children. It still felt like men only wanted one thing, and I was looking for a relationship where sex was the dessert on top of a remarkable spiritual and emotional connection. Jennifer helped me realize that I'm NOT too much, that the energy in me is special, wonderful and that the right man would see that and be attracted to it instead of afraid of or overwhelmed by it. I had magic trapped inside of me that I just needed permission to let out. The right people would be attracted to it and the others I didn't need to concern myself with. Now I'm enjoying loving the fully expressed version of me, attracting men who love the energy in me and getting to know who I am on the inside and by putting my authentic self first I've been able to re-negotiate my job with a pay raise, Fridays off to spend with my kids and the ability to create my own job description."
"She's My Miracle I can't even begin to describe how tough a situation I was in when I started working with Jenn. Unless you've been through a divorce with a world-class narcissist, it's pretty hard to put into words. My world was literally been torn apart around me. Those of you who know KNOW what kind of soul destroying power this kind of ex can unleash when they don't get what they want, but not only did I make it through, I won. I won my sanity. I won my dignity. I won my daughter. And I won a very VERY big settlement when even my first lawyer said I would probably never see a dime. If it hadn't have been for Jenn I likely would have given up. Instead, she helped me create a vision of life so powerful that nothing he threw at me phased me. He never got to see me sweat (and it got unbelievably nuts). Originally, I was telling myself I couldn't afford to work with Jenn, but what I realized was that I didn't think I was worth it. The reality was that I couldn't afford NOT to work with her! Because of Jen I've started a new business as a mortgage broker, helping women who are going through the same challenges I faced get on their feat again."